What a loaded topic… at least for me!
“No person is your friend who demands your silence, or denies your right to grow.”
― Alice Walker
Acceptance has been a hard one to swallow.
I have had many occurrences in my life that I did not choose,
did not want,
had to deal with,
stop worrying about,
find a way through,
and leave behind.
“You couldn’t relive your life, skipping the awful parts, without losing what made it worthwhile. You had to accept it as a whole–like the world, or the person you loved.”
― Stewart O’Nan, The Odds: A Love Story
I am sure everyone has these moments
whether material or ethereal,
lost people – living or dead.
Moments that require change
wanted or unwanted.
“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them; that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.”
― Lao Tzu
Everyone has grieved
many someones or somethings
but gone on living
“to love life, to love it even
when you have no stomach for it
and everything you’ve held dear
crumbles like burnt paper in your hands,
your throat filled with the silt of it.
When grief sits with you, its tropical heat
thickening the air, heavy as water
more fit for gills than lungs;
when grief weights you like your own flesh
only more of it, an obesity of grief,
you think, How can a body withstand this?
Then you hold life like a face
between your palms, a plain face,
no charming smile, no violet eyes,
and you say, yes, I will take you
I will love you, again.”
― Ellen Bass
one has to choose
between living life
“Some people believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it.”
― Ann Landers
Accepting and letting go
of major proportions.
It is easier to wallow in the past,
remember the pain,
wish that things didn’t happen,
say, “Poor, poor, me,”
than to let go, move on, seek healing,
and choose acceptance.
Yet, that is what so many do.
I was in a few grief groups on social for quite some time. I met amazing people, some of whom I am still connected with. Those individuals are sincerely working through the pain of grief and mourning. Others are intent on telling their stories over and over, perpetuating grief and sadness. Keeping the pain going and letting it define them. Some believe that healing isn’t possible.
Healing from grief and pain is possible. It requires acceptance as the first step.
Through acceptance, one has the freedom to experience every emotion that arises: Sadness, anger, tears, rage, anguish, heartbreak, sorrow, fury, to name only a few.
Unexpressed grief and anger does nothing but rot the soul from the inside out.
“Learn this from me. Holding anger is a poison. It eats you from inside. We think that hating is a weapon that attacks the person who harmed us. But hatred is a curved blade. And the harm we do, we do to ourselves.”
― Mitch Albom, The Five People You Meet in Heaven
Acceptance gives me the freedom to love myself even though I have no control of circumstances. To say over, and over, and over again:
“I am not in control.”
“I am not in control.”
“I am not in control.”
“The best way is not to fight it, just go. Don’t be trying all the time to fix things. What you run from only stays with you longer. When you fight something, you only make it stronger.”
― Chuck Palahniuk, Invisible Monsters
Acceptance gives me the freedom to love another again.
To understand and appreciate another individual for their uniqueness.
To never compare.
To live my life going forward with wholeness.
“Love is made up of three unconditional properties in equal measure:
Remove any one of the three and the triangle falls apart.
Which, by the way, is something highly inadvisable. Think about it — do you really want to live in a world of only two dimensions?
So, for the love of a triangle, please keep love whole.”
― Vera Nazarian, The Perpetual Calendar of Inspiration
Acceptance accepts everything as it is
“The most confused you will ever get is when you try to convince your heart and spirit of something your mind knows is a lie.”
― Shannon L. Alder
living the best life possible.
“Resilience is accepting your new reality, even if it’s less good than the one you had before. You can fight it, you can do nothing but scream about what you’ve lost, or you can accept that and try to put together something that’s good.”
― Elizabeth Edwards
Acceptance leads to gratitude!
XO Lisa ❤️ living a gratitude filled life!