Unapologetically Real 13

Letting Go

“You will find that it is necessary to let things go; simply for the reason that they are heavy. So let them go, let go of them. I tie no weights to my ankles.”

― C. JoyBell C.

I think about letting go a lot these days.

I think it is a theme…

There seem to be a lot of things to let go of

when one is nearly 60 years old.

But maybe, in the grand scheme of things,

it only seems that way

because I am thinking about it.

Perhaps it’s getting used to change.

Perhaps it is taking back power over

things I can control.

It could be that I am not taking

any crap,

listening to my intuition,

and not worrying about

things I cannot control.

Regardless, there are things

that I must let go of in order to

be content with my life.

I have a list in my head that I have not yet had the balls (for lack of a better word) to write down on paper. I will just put it here instead:

• The notion that I must be with someone to feel complete.
  • Total hogwash
  • I am a complete human being just as G-d made me
• I have a tendency to let others’ words and actions affect me in a negative manner. I spend too much time analyzing myself when the dust settles.
  • Recognize that others’ words and actions are their own
  • A reflection of their life and not mine
    • Develop a thicker skin
    • Let it roll off
• Hanging on to past hurts
  • Only affects me
  • Lets those people live rent-free in my head
  • They are gone and do not deserve my attention
  • Have a lesson to teach
  • Bury the past when the lessons are learned
• If people disappear, are unkind, judgmental, or demanding
  • They are not my people
  • They will not be allowed back in my life
  • Trust is key
• I am valuable
  • I expect to be treated as such
  • I will let go if I am not
  • I will not fight, I will not plead, I will not beg
  • I will go, never to return.
• I must let go to grow and move forward

Letting go brings acceptance. Acceptance brings Peace.

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“Life is made up of a collection of moments that are not ours to keep. The pain we encounter throughout our days spent on this earth comes from the illusion that some moments can be held onto. Clinging to people and experiences that were never ours in the first place is what causes us to miss out on the beauty of the miracle that is the now. All of this is yours, yet none of it is. How could it be? Look around you. Everything is fleeting.

To love and let go, love and let go, love and let go…it’s the single most important thing we can learn in this lifetime.”
― Rachel Brathen

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“Let go of certainty. The opposite isn’t uncertainty. It’s openness, curiosity and a willingness to embrace paradox, rather than choose up sides. The ultimate challenge is to accept ourselves exactly as we are, but never stop trying to learn and grow.”

― Tony Schwartz

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XO Lisa ❤️