Badassery 12/22

Well hello little badass calendar…

I don’t know about a bright, shiny, flipside…

But I will agree to a flipside.

I don’t know about a flipside being in reach,

at least easily in reach.

In my experiences, finding the flipside has required stubbornness, mental anguish, concerted effort, and just plain hard work.

It’s not that I am a pessimist by nature, I am not.

I do have a tendency to prepare for the worst and hope for the best.

I know it’s my defense mechanism and part of my overthinking mind.

Sometimes it drives me bat shit crazy.

But if a situation goes south, and at some point it’s bound to happen, even though I am surprised, I feel a bit more prepared.

But up out of the rabbit hole and back to finding the flipside.

I could spew all kinds of positive-thinking sayings right now,

but I won’t.

This really should have been an Unapologetically Real post.

To me, finding the flipside isn’t about being sickenly sweet all the time positive thinking. Although Norman Vincent Peale and Zig Ziglar thought so, I am sure. (Nothing against Norman and Zig, I loved their books).

It isn’t about having post-its on the mirror with quotes:

“Change your thoughts and you change your world.”

– Norman Vincent Peale

“One small positive thought can change your whole day.”

– Zig Ziglar

Finding the flipside is Peace.

Asking myself:

“What can I learn from this situation?”

“How can I turn this situation into good?”

“My feelings aside, how would the other person have felt if the situation had been reversed?”

“Think for a moment, that everything in life, (good, bad, disappointing) has happened for a reason. Accept that nothing happens by coincidence.”

Flipping characteristics that I see as shameful into good things for me is a technique that has helped my self esteem tremendously. The practice has helped me accept myself as I am and embrace my shadows/ dark side.

My life to this point has made me the person I am today.

I am peaceful.

XO Lisa ❤️ living a gratitude filled life!