Expectations, Release or Not?
“If you expect nothing from somebody you are never disappointed.”― Sylvia Plath, The Bell Jar
Why would I expect nothing to avoid disappointment?
Living without expectations has caused nothing but grief.
I am the quiet, introverted, sit back and observe until I am comfortable, person.
But I am also the loud “Type A”, OCD, over-the-top, eccentric, and my own person, person – when I am comfortable, my extroverted side comes out.
This is my own space, so I am obviously comfortable here.
“Positive expectations are the mark of the superior personality.”― Brian Tracy, Maximum Achievement: Strategies and Skills that Will Unlock Your Hidden Powers to Succeed
I would never in a million years admit that I am superior, but I do have expectations.
I expect excellence from myself, so why on earth would I expect nothing from others?
I know what I will and will not accept in life, love, and my own pursuit of happiness.
Don’t tell anyone, but I have a list of characteristics that I seek.
It isn’t long, and I will not share it.
I am not a list-maker. Except for things that are important to me.
The rest of my life is important. So important, that it warranted a list. A mostly non-negotiable list.
“Excellence is the Result of Caring more than others think is Wise, Risking more than others think is Safe, Dreaming more than others think is Practical, and Expecting more than others think is Possible.”― Ronnie Oldham
Why am I writing about this?
Because people in general have fallen for the “expect nothing” frame of mind.
Some think that they should expect nothing.
I did, for awhile.
I was enamored by the attention from individuals who were scammers, too busy, takers but not givers, potheads, just wanted to fuck with no connection necessary, or talked for awhile and disappeared.
“You are one of the rare people who can separate your observation from your preconception. You see what is, where most people see what they expect.”― John Steinbeck, East of Eden
Therefore, I will continue to
observe first without preconceptions,
and live in a state of
“I can’t imagine going on when there are no more expectations.”― Dame Edith Evans
I will not settle for less or
release my expectations,
because doing either would mean
that I am not worthy.
“Our brightest blazes of gladness are commonly kindled by unexpected sparks.”― Samuel Johnson, The Idler; Poems
wait for the right person
to come at the right time.
Because I am worth waiting for and they will be too.
XO Lisa ❤️ living a gratitude filled life!