Well hello little badass calendar!
You are getting a little spunky near the end of the month and so, my dear, am I.
I no longer apologize for who I am.
I used to.
All the time. All the time.
I apologized for my own thoughts
for being me
for spilling milk
for saying No
for things I did long ago —
right or wrong.
I apologized so much it became clear to me that I was apologizing for taking up space — because I didn’t think I was worthy.
I don’t know why I thought I wasn’t worthy, I just did not think I was.
All that changed suddenly when I decided not being myself was no way to live life.
I decided that I am worthy!
Coming into my own took work, major soul-searching.
I started by changing my thoughts:
I became my own ardent supporter
with notes on the mirror
TED talks to myself
no self-doubt allowed.
After thoughts, I had to change my words
— self-talk included.
Negative thoughts were swiftly turned into positive.
Whenever I caught myself saying ‘I’m sorry’ as a habit I changed my verbiage.
Instead I said, “Sorry, not sorry.”
I started saying ‘No, thank you.’
Became less of a people-pleaser and more in tune with my own needs.
The decision to stand up and be myself was not easy —
it alienated some,
In the process of changing my words and thoughts, I also set firm boundaries:
those who do not show
good intentions, or true friendship
(to name a few)
are not worthy to take up space
in my head
or my life.
statement of independence,
from all things not in my best interests
has freed up time and energy —
To do things that I want to do
Take on new and fun projects
and enjoy life!
I highly recommend never, ever apologizing for who you are!
Those who are meant to stay, will.
Those who are not, will find others.
XO Lisa ❤️